Saving texts as evidence for custody

Steps to keep a usable record

1. 1. Preserve the original

   Keep the conversation on the device or account where you received it when possible. Do not access someone else’s account or device without authorization.

2. 2. Save context and dates

   Use an available conversation export or clear screenshots. Include the relevant surrounding messages, participants and timestamps; note any missing material.

3. 3. Label copies accurately

   Keep originals separate from highlighted review copies. Name the file with the date range and conversation participants.

4. 4. Link and review

   Reference the saved file from a factual entry. Let your attorney decide whether and how to present it under local evidence rules.

Worked example

Sample only: a thread from October 6, 4:40–5:25 p.m. includes the exchange-location confirmation and arrival message. Exhibit 3 preserves that context. The log cites the thread rather than changing a message to make it sound clearer.

Official sources and local rules

State court self-help information is a starting point. These California resources illustrate court preparation, not nationwide rules. Find your own state and local court’s instructions; custody matters generally use state courts, and filing, service and evidence requirements vary.

• California Courts: custody and parenting time
• California Courts: submitting documents for a family-law hearing

How to do this in Custody Ninja

Import a thread in Messages and review it before saving. Upload original screenshots or exports to Papers, then cite their exhibit numbers in the related journal entry. The app does not access the other parent’s phone.

Scout is free. They never get a login.

Questions parents ask